The Mother of All
People ask, "Why do all
your siblings live in different states?" I tell them my parents had a
catapult on the front porch. As soon as we turned 18, they would put each of us
in it, wind it up and fling us as far as they could.
When you get thrown out into
the world, sometimes you stick the landing. Sometimes you land face down on the
pavement, just short of the landing pad. What's important, is you get up and
make your own way.
Someone recently told me
about a student who received a job offer. He told his mother and she
immediately asked, "Did you negotiate your salary?"
"No," said the
student. He thought the offer was generous.
"I'll handle this,"
said Mom. She called the employer and told them what salary her son should get.
The employer said,
"Thank you very much. We are looking at other candidates." The offer
was rescinded. Imagine that mother, telling her son how she lost his
hard-earned job offer.
Parenting is the most
important job anyone will ever have. The duties of a parent include teaching
your offspring to live independently. Even before they go off to college, they
should know how to:
* Do their own laundry.
* Cook for themselves.
* Stick to a budget.
* Negotiate a salary.
About that salary – go ahead
and ask for more money – as long as you can justify what you are bringing to
the organization is worth the increase. (It's not about you. Make it about them.)
Most employers will at least counter by meeting you halfway.
While the working world
emphasizes "teamwork," there is something to be said for a little independence.
Embrace your kids, tell them this will always be "their home away from
home," then hand them a helmet.
Culture and Manners Institute